I was talking with Sammy Kershaw this morning about Christmas gifts.  We were reminiscing about the time when we had to put actual thought into the presents we bought for people.  We had to pay attention to their likes and dislikes and find the gift that would tell them that we cared enough to know they would enjoy having that item.  Today we seem to be all about cash and gift cards.  Those items seem very impersonal to me.  Giving them seems to say "I don't know anything about you, but you're on my Christmas list. So here ya go."

There are some pitfalls to the old way of doing things though.  I remember buying some REALLY bad presents along the way.  I had one that I thought was bulletproof.  I got her a full day at the spa.  She had never had a massage before.

So when she opened it, all she could think about was a stranger's hands on her body and was not excited.  That was an awkward moment, but she got past it.

I've heard of other gifts actually causing arguments between couples.  Generally the man would buy the wrong thing, or worse: the wrong size!  We (males) are inherently bad at gift giving.  Let's face it.  Our brains just aren't wired that way.  But has it ever caused a fight?