I’ve Noticed Husbando And I Have Changed A Bit Over The Years
Are you the responsible one in your relationship . . . and the other person is a lazy, unmotivated slob? Well, apparently you won't be responsible for much longer.
A new study found that when one person in a relationship has low self-control, the other person eventually follows. So, if the person you're with eats like crap, never cleans, and constantly wastes money, YOU will too. Or you'll just break up.
In the study, researchers looked at three types of couples. Ones where both people had a high level of self-control, ones where neither did, and couples where only ONE person did. And they found that when only one person was responsible, the couple was just as bad about eating healthy and saving money as couples where NO ONE was responsible. Because the person who's responsible is more likely to compromise and change.
But one of the head researchers says it doesn't HAVE to be a deal breaker. If you're the responsible one in the relationship, just be more aware of your tendency to give in. And if you're the lazy slob, try to compromise more. I think that's what's happened over the years in our house. Husbando is responsible for the cleaning and whatnot, and I've definitely stepped back to let him have control of that. But see, I used to be a pretty organized person. Husbando is organized, but not in a way that makes sense to me. He has a pile of stuff in his closet and knows exactly where each little piece is, but it just looks like a mess to me. So I just let it go and let him do it his way. And he has definitely gotten a lot less hot headed because of me. Before, if a customer service agent or a friend of his made him angry, he would throw everything away and just have done with it. Now, I encourage him to take a step back and breathe, and deal with the situation when he's not angry.
So tell me all about how it is in your house. In your relationship, is there a "messy" one or "clean" one? Have you compromised something for your relationship, or let something go? Is there a "responsible one" and a "lazy one"?