Husbando Is Subjecting Himself To My Nerdiness This Weekend
I don't know if I've mentioned this seven or eight thousand times, but I'm a nerd. I think you probably know that already if you read these things more than once. Or if you've ever.. you know, listened to me talk.
And Husbando is nerdy too, just about different things than I am. We're similarly passionate about things that some people might think is weird. He is interested in history and historic cooking, board games, video games about World War 2, shows about vampires who bone all the time, stuff like that.
Meanwhile I am a nerd about comedy and music, basically. I always have been since middle school, when I discovered The Beatles. And it's been a thing where when I find something I like, I have to know every little thing about it. You probably would look at me like a freak if you knew how many hours I've spent listening to Beatles songs, watching their movies, reading books about them, etc. To be honest, I don't even know.
And for about a year now, I've had another musical obsession, where I have to listen to them all the time, and if you recall, it's BTS. If you don't know what that is, you can read up on it here. Has it been a whole year? Maybe next month will be a year. I can't remember when it started, to be honest. It went from "I just want to learn their names" to "Why yes, that is a BTS pen, BTS socks, calendars, cards, scheduling book, and keychain*...." pretty quickly. I wanna say it took about... a month? Who remembers these things? I can't tell you, because I didn't notice it happening.
Which brings me to this weekend. Through some form of scheduling miracle, I am not going to be at the Missouri State Fair this weekend (though I'm sure Brantley Gilbert will do a great show). Coincidentally, my latest musical nerdery is having a limited time event this very weekend.
Yes, there is going to be a showing of a BTS movie happening this weekend in Independence. And I've got tickets, and Husbando is willingly coming with me. WILLINGLY. He said, "Sure, I'll go. You do things with me all the time."
And you know what? That's what it's all about isn't it. Sure, your wife might not have a problem with Korean popular music, but I bet your wife or husband or S.O. likes something that you don't. Or it might be that you just don't like it as much as they do. And I bet you support them in that, whether it's going to a softball game with them, or going to a gardening show, or even dinner with their friends. You do it because you want to support them and you show it by at least attempting to understand what they like.
It's not a bad thing. It's part of what a real relationship is. Sure, he might roll his eyes when I'm giggling at the latest BTS Run episode, but he loves me maybe in spite of or because of my nerdiness. And it's not like I don't hold back a joke or two when he's talking about tank modifications for an hour with his friend. We have that in common, it's part of what makes our relationship interesting. We're big nerds, and that's just the way we roll. I guess having that kind of tendency to be passionate about something off the beaten path is part of what drew us to each other.
And while I'm sure he'll be cringing a little bit at me, he'll still be there in the seat next to me (I bet he won't even admit it if he enjoyed it). And when we get home, he'll get on the Xbox and talk strategy with his friend about his war game. I'll be there, half listening, occasionally bringing a "that's what she said" to the table.
What does your significant other like that you, well, "tolerate"? What do you like that they just go along with you about? Maybe you like action movies, but she likes romantic comedies? Maybe he likes baseball, she likes scrapbooking? Not to be too stereotypical. Just some examples off the top of my head.
Bringing The Soul,
*IN MY DEFENSE, most of these things were not bought by me. They were gifts from friends and family. There just happens to be a lot of BTS merch. I bought two shirts, I downloaded the game, I got the albums, sure. But most of this stuff came from other people.