My esteemed colleague, Denny Perkins, recently wrote in a blog post that the movie "Magic Mike" and the book "50 Shades of Grey" are bad news for married guys.  I disagree.  I say the craze of these to pieces of entertainment offer us great insight and an opportunity for people's relationships to improve.

Denny says "50 Shades of Grey" is pure fantasy for women.  That much is true.  I'm currently reading the book and I'll post a review as soon as I'm finished.  He seems to think women will say "He doesn't do that to me anymore," or "He's never done that to me."  They probably will.  But that isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Men have fantasies too.  Movies and books often play to these fantasies.  And yes, we say those things about the women in our lives.  THAT'S where this can be a healthy thing.  Women may ask for the fantasy to come true.  It is in that light that men can bring up their own thoughts and introduce them into the relationship. Women that have been arguing "You just saw that somewhere and didn't really think of me," have no ground to stand on any longer.  So let her read and let the games begin!

As for "Magic Mike,"  Denny seems to worry about the way the men in the movie look.  Let's face it gentlemen, we've been objectifying women for a LONG time.  They're just taking their turn.  They won't think "My man should look like that," any more than we think "My woman should look like that," when we see a beautiful woman.

Let them go see the movie.  Then gently let them know that them getting angry with you for going to the strip club is unwarranted.  The fact is, you've chosen each other.  Use this as a chance to tell her that you still want to see her in her lingerie.  She may not think she looks good, and she's probably not a model, but that doesn't mean we appreciate them any less.  You shouldn't think they will appreciate you any less either.

See?  These pieces of entertainment aren't threats.  They're a chance for everyone to gain an understanding of each other.  Women are now seeing how men have viewed adult entertainment for eons, and men are getting a dose of how women have felt about it.

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